Love or Like

He looks her straight in the eyes. He has been standing there with her for just ten minutes but it looks like they’ve been there for two hours. What am I going to do now? He thought.
“Lolade”, he called her. As if she is a mile apart, she jerks her head up, with a startled “yes!”
“B – But you know I love you,” he continues,
“Come on now Lolade, I love you” She turns around, looks down.
“Look at me, Lolade, you know I love you, come off it!” he gently raises her head up. “Face me and tell me what’s on your mind”.

How can she make him understand? He’s cute, dark and intelligent. He’s such a good friend. But she’ll just love to put it at that. She turns around, sighs
“Wale”, silence, “you know what? I don’t love you. I like you so much and that’s all I want. Please just take that from me”, looks him straight in the eye and turns to walk away.
“I think we should start going, let’s get out of here…”

Do you know that many girls out there love to flirt around really? They want to be kissed on the cheek, sometimes on the lips and they actually love it when guys give them dirty talk. Some wouldn’t mind to stay in a guy’s place till dawn. Some could even give you all the green light you need to see that will make you think you are the one, but really, they’d just love to keep it at that.

Unfortunately, the poor guy thinks he is the bloke. Actually, he is but he doesn’t just have the mind. He’s falling in love! He starts planning things but not without Lolade in mind. While hanging out with the guys for drinks, he is caught up with his imagination, cruising with her on a love boat, or having a sun tan on the beach with her lying beside her in her see-through bikini.
“Come on”, he told his friend one day, “No girl would just hug a guy like that! If there isn’t anything, she wouldn’t give me that kiss!”
“Wait”, he calls out to another one, “last night when I proposed to her again, she looks me straight in the eye, you know this sensual look (gesticulates with his hands), and just kissed me sliding her tongue with mine, but I was just very disturbed that I couldn’t just…”
“But she hugs me too”, the friend calmly said.
“No”, he retorted, “She gives me the full hug, so loving, so passionate. Come on, there’s more to that!”

“But in actual fact, the girl really just doesn’t fell the need to make things formal”, Tosin Anuodo, a part 3 law student of Obafemi Awolowo University, Ile-Ife, Osun State, said. But the guy wants the girl to at least say “yes!” with a passionate kiss to follow it. Then that’s where it comes in that to face the real fact, ‘love’ is not ‘like’ but they overlap.

To Funbi Akinwale, a student of the same university, “most girls just don’t want commitment. Girls could generally flirt with guys but that doesn’t mean she loves the guy or will want to end up in a relationship with him”. Maybe she’s just enjoying herself. That means she likes the guy but doesn’t love him. It had better be known to the guys out there that you don’t mistake her friendship and attention to be love. Many ladies would rather let it be kept at that.

If that be the case, don’t you think there is sure a better deal? I think there is! Rather than keeping yourself in commitment that could end up breaking your heart, why not just enjoy yourself in that attention and you may be lucky that the peck could turn to kiss and that could actually lead to something else and nobody is hurt? I bet you do!

She doesn’t want commitment but she wants to play around. No string attached but chemistry could always erupt. She said she just broke up with Jide and Kunle isn’t the right guy for him. She agrees that though you’d make her happy if she goes out with you and you both could always have fun, but she just doesn’t see it happen at all. Then, no problem! It’s just a fair deal! Go around and have a good time. You want her love for a new year. Rather than hate her for punishing your emotions, be happy because it’s one less thing to worry about.

Akin told me about how lovely it felt when she gave her the hug and how she loves making his hands wander on her love buns. I think it’s cool too! Let’s enjoy! Rather than guys been locked up in emotional turmoil, they now know better. “Love” is not “Like” and they can enjoy. I think it’s a good new-year resolution guys. Just enjoy!